Excellent, wise words. Until or unless you have to deal with a Cluster B, its hard to properly understand they exist. Once you do, and you figure out what you are dealing with you, you get out and hopefully stay out. I assume you follow Josh at Disaffected? He is a past master at this stuff. Also, your point about 'expertise' and not needing it, no you don't need an expert to tell you if you are being manipulated.
We should remember these people are disordered in their thinking. A large part of our modern decline is the promotion of disordered individuals into positions of authority. The dysfunction we see at personal levels is at play at the societal level too.
It's high time we started to interrogate this idea of "self esteem" that has come to be unthinkingly seen as an axiom of healthy psychology. One aspect of the post-60s 'revolution' that gets little attention is that it saw a retreat from the (Christian) conception of the individual as an intrinsically flawed being – prone to sin and prone to error. Now maximal 'self esteem' is valorised. People drunk on their own self esteem will have inflated expectations that they deserve never to be made 'unhappy' by anything so annoying as reality.
Information and insightful. Words of warning against those of us with deeply ingrained, problematic patterns of personality.
I have compassion towards those of us who manifest these problematic personality disorders or patterns. Being self-aware can make it particularly poignant. These patterns often seem like an addiction that we see in ourselves and want to stop, but finds ourselves repeating over and over again, in relationship after relationship.
My recent efforts have been practicing the dharma. Consistent meditation and mindfulness practice seem to loosen the hold of some of these patterns, but I'm not sure I'm necessarily any more relationally functional. Stay tuned 🙏
Fun tidbit: the Innu were knows to banish, which meant death, the psychopaths among them. More often than not, they are slobs who make excuses not to work, and seduce or rape the women while the man are hunting.
Excellent, wise words. Until or unless you have to deal with a Cluster B, its hard to properly understand they exist. Once you do, and you figure out what you are dealing with you, you get out and hopefully stay out. I assume you follow Josh at Disaffected? He is a past master at this stuff. Also, your point about 'expertise' and not needing it, no you don't need an expert to tell you if you are being manipulated.
All good advice.
We should remember these people are disordered in their thinking. A large part of our modern decline is the promotion of disordered individuals into positions of authority. The dysfunction we see at personal levels is at play at the societal level too.
I wonder if it was about cluster B people thar Jesus said, "Don't throw your pearls before swine."
It's high time we started to interrogate this idea of "self esteem" that has come to be unthinkingly seen as an axiom of healthy psychology. One aspect of the post-60s 'revolution' that gets little attention is that it saw a retreat from the (Christian) conception of the individual as an intrinsically flawed being – prone to sin and prone to error. Now maximal 'self esteem' is valorised. People drunk on their own self esteem will have inflated expectations that they deserve never to be made 'unhappy' by anything so annoying as reality.
It sounds like you got your masters Russell. Only by walking through the fires.
I got mine in politics.
And now it appears the world has to go through the darkness.
Information and insightful. Words of warning against those of us with deeply ingrained, problematic patterns of personality.
I have compassion towards those of us who manifest these problematic personality disorders or patterns. Being self-aware can make it particularly poignant. These patterns often seem like an addiction that we see in ourselves and want to stop, but finds ourselves repeating over and over again, in relationship after relationship.
My recent efforts have been practicing the dharma. Consistent meditation and mindfulness practice seem to loosen the hold of some of these patterns, but I'm not sure I'm necessarily any more relationally functional. Stay tuned 🙏
Fun tidbit: the Innu were knows to banish, which meant death, the psychopaths among them. More often than not, they are slobs who make excuses not to work, and seduce or rape the women while the man are hunting.
Seems like there's a modicum of wisdom there.